“I would love to write… but I just don’t have the time!”
I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve heard this from friends and co-workers who express an interest in creative writing. I’ve caught myself saying similar things as well. But the sad fact is, most of us are habitual liars.
“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.”
The oft-quoted adage conveys important wisdom. In our efforts to make something the best it can be, we might pour too much effort or time into a project when “good enough” would suffice. Perfection is notoriously impossible to obtain, especially when we rely on our subjective judgment to make determinations. Most of us are never so confident as to say something we do or create is perfect… but it’s what many of us strive for nonetheless.
Wise people recognize when “good” is good enough, and refocus their attention or resources to accomplish the next task instead of perfecting the first.
Yet I find a related lesson as I consider that first quote:
We must not let good become the enemy of our goal.
In life, if we’re open to new ideas and watching for new opportunities, there are always choices and options available which seem appealing or even ideal. It’s too easy to follow these rabbit trails into tangential tasks and irrelevant efforts that feel good but never satisfy our deeper desires.
Motivational speakers and writers issue a common refrain: if you’re going to succeed at the most important thing to you, it has to become the most important thing to you.
Sometimes that means getting up earlier. Working on the weekend. Putting in some hours working at your passion, after you’ve already put in a full day’s work on the job. Other times, it means forsaking what’s appealing for what you’re accomplishing. While friends party or catch a movie, you grind a little more today so you start tomorrow further along the path to the goal. When genuinely good commitments are asked of you, sometimes it means saying, “I can’t do that right now.”
Speaking of financial stability and living within one’s means, Dave Ramsey puts it this way:
“If you will live like no one else, later you can live like no one else.”
His program applies this principle toward financial management, and participants cut unnecessary or excessive expenses while planning and monitoring their budgets down to the penny. The same concept applies to anyone who sets out to accomplish some difficult and demanding long-term goal–except it means cutting irrelevant activities and expenditures of energy, and focusing in on the actual priorities we claim mean so much.
I’m presuming you’ve already made some goals and decided certain activities are worth your effort–perhaps fitness achievements or weight loss, perhaps a career in writing or art or music, maybe some professional education or advancement with a clearly laid-out path and requirements.
Step one is to figure out what matters to you and commit to it, not as some hobby, thing on the side, or “personal interest.” Of this you can be certain: Make such a decision, and those good temptations and worthwhile distractions will come out of the woodwork. So what’s the way forward?
Make the most of your time.
Sometimes we can kill two or three birds with one stone. As I type, I’m sitting on the bike, finishing an hour pedaling away. I’m knocking out my exercise for today while getting a blog post typed up while taking time for personal reflection while meeting today’s word count goal.
In a similar vein, while waiting in line at the post office or grocery store, I’ve typed up blogs or short stories, outlined D&D sessions or book ideas, coordinated events or meetings, and so on.
When I feel rushed, I consider my YouTube video history, the “hours played” on various video games, or the Netflix log of shows I’ve watched. We all have 24 hours a day, with probably 8 hours that we allocate as we see fit.
Long-term effort made of small steps and good decisions is the only path to success and accomplishing some of our goals. I can’t get fit in a week of high-intensity workouts and crash-diets. I won’t write a novel by sitting down and cranking out 80,000 words in a couple days. I’m not likely to see a million dollars drop into my bank account so I can pay off all my debts and save for retirement. Regular, disciplined effort is the only way forward.
Small steps add up to big results.
A few hundred words isn’t much, but when I write 500 in the half-hour before work, then 600 at lunch, then 250 while waiting to pay my groceries, then another 800 before bed… that’s how progress is made.
Paying an extra $50 or $100 on a bill until it’s gone means that I have that money plus the amount of the regular bill available to apply elsewhere in the budget. This is a big part of how Dave Ramsey’s program eliminates debt: small steps that build momentum.
Still, all too often there’s a whole gang of “good” calling for my attention.
I may have to learn to say no.
What about you? How do you balance pursuing your interests and passions with the demands of “real life” and other commitments? Got any tips for readers? (That really means please can I steal some good ideas because I’m desperate.) Let me know in a comment below.
About the author
Dave Williamson is an enlisted Air Force aircrew member living on Okinawa with over 20 years in the service. He is married to a phenomenal, supportive wife, and has four awesome children. Dave loves drinking coffee, singing, playing piano, writing, video games, tabletop role-playing games, and drinking more coffee. He has two self-published novels and is a published contributing author in Chicken Soup for the Soul. Dave writes fantasy, sci-fi, short stories, devotional thoughts, ideas about tabletop gaming, and the occasional haiku. Go to http://davidmwilliamson.net to see his most recent work.